Private text to Magneto

[geminated_man]

Hey, mate. You're good with relationship bullshit, yeah? Would you mind giving an ear? I haven't really got anyone to help me get it sorted. Not to sound gay or anythin but you're the closest thing I've got to a friend in this shithole.

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[coinmover]

I think my ex-wife would disagree with the first part of your assessment, Doppleganger, but go on.

[geminated_man]

Well you got married. I can't even tell ya last time I had an actual girlfriend.

Anyway. It's this girl, yeah? She's only just shown up in my life again. We were great mates back home... Slept with her before we became real good friends. Anyhow, she doesn't remember us bein friends. Only the stupid party we had sex at.

It's doin me head in. I can't fuckin deal with it. I went through enough the first time she rejected me. I hate askin other people about this bullshit but... I don't know what else to do.

[geminated_man]

It's like.. I'm obsessed with her. I can't get her out of me head.

[coinmover]

The traditional solutions are another drink, another woman, or another town. On this island, I'm afraid you'd have to settle for the first two.

More practically -- find something to do with your empty hours. If you are too busy to think of her, the pain fades more quickly. The obsession as well.

Just be certain whatever it is you find, you're comfortable replacing one obsession for the other.

[geminated_man]

Yeah, tried the other woman thing. Dunno if you could tell, but not exactly workin out for me, mate. Dunno what's goin on with the birds in this town but not exactly doin loads for me self-confidence.

And last time I wound up drunk over a girl, I destroyed her car and got arrested. Emotional splitting, yeah? Do we remember that?

I haven't really got any hobbies or anything. So what do I do with all this free time you're suggestin?

[coinmover]

Do you want me to tell you what to do with your life? Or would you rather find it yourself?

[geminated_man]

Well fuck when you put it like that. Jesus.

I dunno man. How do you get over girls? I don't like how this feels.

[coinmover]

The more you lose, the more skillful at it you become. I hope, my friend, that you never learn to discard the past as easily as I can.

[geminated_man]

Ya think so? Cos right now it hurts pretty fuckin bad. I'd rather just get over it and move on. I'm tired of feelin like shit over some girl.

[coinmover]

Doppleganger. Think. To overcome that pain easily, you must first experience it again and again. Every friend, every family member, every shred of who I was as shot. Gassed. Burned.

That hurt is a sign that you still have something to hurt for.

Moving on has much to recommend it. Immunizing yourself to loss does not.

[geminated_man]

Well, fuck, nothing's a big deal when you bring the Holocaust into it.

But, no, you're right. So... this is a good thing? I mean, not exactly a machine yet.

Do you have anything that needs doing? I just need to get me mind off this shit.

[coinmover]

I could send you grocery shopping. At the moment, that's all I have planned.

Otherwise, I'd say you should buy yourself a punching bag.